Parents night Resources

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Below is a list of questions and prompts. We encourage you to pick a few questions under each topic to help foster meaningful conversation tonight!

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Exploring your spouse's inner world
Open Ended Questions
Sex
Date Questions
Appreciation

Exploring your spouse's inner world:

Knowing your spouse’s inner world is an important factor in healthy and intimate marriages. Take turns answering the following questions as they relate to your spouse. Discuss each answer and aim at meaningful conversation and connection.
  • What is your spouse’s favorite book?
  • How does your spouse connect with God?
  • What is your spouse’s favorite TV show?
  • Who is your spouse’s favorite poet?
  • What was your spouse’s most embarrassing moment?
  • Who are your spouse’s two closest friends?
  • How does your spouse feel most connected to you?
  • Who is your spouse’s favorite band, composer, performer, or songwriter?
  • What stresses are facing your spouse in the immediate future?
  • Who is your spouse’s favorite relative?
  • What is your spouse’s biggest fear?
  • What is your spouse’s ideal day off?
  • What is your spouse’s dream job?
  • Who stresses your spouse out the most?
  • What was your spouse’s most formative life experience?
  • What does your spouse mean by “Romance”?

Open-Ended Questions:

Open-ended questions can’t be answered with a simple “yes” or “no”. Instead, they require a story. Couples who understand their spouse’s hopes and dreams develop deeper relational connection. Take turns asking each other questions from the deck. Listen with empathy and without judgment. Ask follow up questions to learn more about their answer.
  • What do you want life to be like in three years?
  • How do you see your career changing in the future?
  • How do you feel about the home we’ve made in our house?
  • How do you feel about work right now?
  • What do you find most exciting in life right now?
  • How do you feel about your relationship with God right now?
  • When have you felt closest to God?
  • What do you find exciting in life right now?
  • What do you find most difficult about life right now?
  • What is the worst movie you’ve ever seen?
  • How can we cultivate emotional intimacy in our marriage?
  • What do you need in a friend right now?
  • How have you changed in the past year?
  • If you could change one thing about yourself, what would you choose?
  • How are you similar to your own parents? How are you different?
  • What kind of person do you think our child(ren) will become? Any hopes or fears?
  • How are you feeling about being a parent?

Sex:

Sex is an important component to your marriage and should be discussed. Couples who understand their spouse’s sexual needs, wants, fears, etc. have a healthier emotional connection and a more satisfying sex life. Take turns asking each other a few of the following questions.
  • How do you define “Sex”?
  • How important is it for you to have an orgasm when we have sex?
  • Do you ever have difficulty reaching orgasm? How can I support you?
  • What increases your satisfaction with our sexual relationship?
  • What do you find most arousing?
  • What kills the mood?
  • When does sex begin and end for you?
  • What do you consider foreplay?
  • What messages did you receive about sex when you were growing up? How does it affect your view and experience now?
  • How do you want us to communicate about sex?
  • When does talking about sex feel risky, difficult, or embarrassing?
  • How comfortable are you asking for what you want when we have sex?
  • How can I help you feel free in our sexual relationship?
  • What is the best way to communicate when I am not in the mood so that you don’t feel rejected?
  • How do you feel when I initiate sex?
  • How do you feel when you initiate sex?
  • What do you like most about your body?
  • How do I make you feel good about your body?
  • Are there things I do that make you feel bad about your body? What can I do differently?
  • When was the last time we set aside a period of time to fast and pray together, instead of enjoying our normal rhythm of sex?

Date Questions:

Everyone needs a night off. These questions are on the lighter end of the spectrum but help you start a conversation and deepen your connection. Take turns asking each other a few of the following questions
  • If you could fly anywhere in the world right now, where would you go?
  • What did you like most about the place you grew up? What did you like the least?
  • What is something small that really makes your day?
  • If you could only keep one book you currently own (and you get to keep a Bible, too), which book would you choose?
  • Describe your perfect vacation. Where is it? Who is there? Where do you stay? What do you do? (Etc.)
  • What is the best part of your current job?
  • Tell me about the first birthday you remember.
  • What is your favorite way to be creative?
  • What household chores are the worst?
  • How have you changed in the last 10 years?
  • What is the best present you’ve ever received?
  • What is the most disgusting thing you’ve ever eaten?
  • What hobby have you always wanted to pick up but haven’t yet?
  • What is something you are proud of?
  • Is there a movie you’ve watched so many times you can quote the whole thing (or come close)? Which One? What about the movie captured your imagination?

Give Appreciation:

Couples who look for positive things in their relationship and acknowledge them develop admiration and trust. Look through this list and think of specific ways you can verbally express appreciation. With each prompt, there is an example. Make sure to be specific and more elaborate in your own answers
  • Household Chores. (Example: “Thanks for doing the dishes last night.”)
  • Emotional Support. (Example: “Thanks for listening to me talk about my relationship with my dad. I felt supported”)
  • Parental Obligations. (Example: “You are a great parent. The kids look up to you.”)
  • Obligations related to work. (Example: “Thanks for going to the company party with me and helping me navigate that conversation with my boss. You really shined.”)
  • Physical Affection. (Example: “Thanks for giving me a hug. I was feeling alone.”)
  • Verbal affection. (Example: “Thanks for saying that. You always know how to complement me and make me feel loved.”)
  • Intellect. (Example: “I love the way you can accurately guess how the movie ends in the first 15 minutes. You’re so intuitive.”)
  • Character. (Example: “When you (be specific here) I was impressed by your integrity. I have so much respect for you and know I can trust you.”)
  • Social Interactions. (Example: “Thanks for scheduling time with our friends.”)
  • Civic Obligations. (Example: “You’re so thoughtful in how you talk about our faith and our relationships in the neighborhood. You encourage me in my faith.”)
  • Relational Priorities. (Example: “Thanks for cancelling that appointment. I know you prioritize me in your life.”)
  • Love Languages. (Example: “Thanks for bringing me a slice of cake from Katya’s Bakery - you know how much I feel loved when you remember my sweet tooth.”)